‘I bu Delaila ji aguba’ : Revisiting the perception of sociopaths in an African community

suggested that the growing superstitious beliefs on the causes, nature and remedy to ASPD particularly those associated with sociopathy provide the space for people living with these behavioural conditions (particularly violent sociopaths) to continue abusing unsuspecting individuals in the society. Contribution: The finding of this study specifically challenged the faith-based misconceptions associated with ASPD. Therefore, it is expected that the new insight on ASPD, particularly sociopathy ushers in proper understanding and ways of dealing with the morally insane.


Introduction
My mental health situation seemed to deteriorate. I was becoming a drunk. Most regrettably, I was also nursing the thought of suicide. Thoughts of running away to an unknown destination were recurring subconsciously and uncontrollably. I felt there was one final moment and opportunity to address my mental confusion. I followed my instinct to move out of my house in Nsukka to another location in a nearby city of Enugu. I had officially written to my superiors to be transferred from Nsukka campus of the University of Nigeria, to Enugu. I felt that this was a smart move, at least, to move away from the perceived source of my immediate worries. A few days after settling in Enugu, I received a call from a man at the Nsukka Police Station that someone had reported a case against me; I was urgently needed to be at the aforesaid station. This call worsened my situation. I was in a serious dilemma on how to end my worries or continue with the recurrent dramatic relationship. At that point, I did not have enough money for issues with the police or litigation. However, about 30 min later, I received another call from the police, but this time from an officer that claimed that I once taught him in the university. He convinced me to report to the police. This was to avoid the embarrassment of arresting me publicly as every arrangement had been made to that effect. I heeded his advice. But I had other plans. I managed to file for a divorce at Énúgú Èzìkè High Court. The next day, I reported to the Reports of increasing family violence abound in Nigeria. Although studies have implicated cultural constructs as the basis for this trend, this study specifically contemplated the nexus between the increased violence and Anti-Social Personality Disorder (ASPD). The purpose of this study was to connect these abusive and violent behaviours in their specific contexts as evidence of ASPD. The study was hinged on autoethnographic research which I systematically analysed as lived experiences with a sociopath. Data for the analyses was drawn from purposively sampled participants (n-70) of victims of family violent abuse. Thematic, interpretative analytical approach and the theories of sociopathy, particularly Hare, Psychopathy Checklist-revised (PCL-R) were used to analyse the data from my personal experiences, and the interviews. The results indicated that only five participants representing 7.14% of the purposively selected population, admitted knowing sociopaths as conscienceless murderers and serial killers. The majority of participants (90%) contemplated sociopaths in religious terms (as incarnated evil beings). Only 2.86% rightly expressed their understanding of sociopathy and related personality disorders in a muchinformed manner. Although the results of this study contrast with conventional propositions on ASPD, they revealed how religious belief and superstition among Nigerians frame the conversation on sociopathy and other variants of ASPD. Findings suggested that the growing superstitious beliefs on the causes, nature and remedy to ASPD particularly those associated with sociopathy provide the space for people living with these behavioural conditions (particularly violent sociopaths) to continue abusing unsuspecting individuals in the society.
Police Chief with an evidence of the process. Without this approach, I would have, perhaps, been thrown into the police cell, and 'beaten by the inmates or the police' (cf. Ulo 2021).
At the police station, the Area Commander Police boss tried to rescue the marriage from collapsing irretrievably by inviting me and my partner named Jack Peace (JP) (for the purpose of this article) to his office. As we entered the room, a few other police officers were there. When JP was given the opportunity to speak, I was calm as she smartly and eloquently presented her facts. She claimed that I abandoned my family and ran to Enugu with another woman. She also accused me of starving our children by not sending money for their upkeep nor paying their school fees. I had involved a lawyer, who had advised me to attend the meeting with evidence and receipt of any amount of money I had spent on her or on our two innocent children. I did as the lawyer directed. I had hardly rounded off my speech on the remote and immediate causes of the violence and misunderstanding between me and JP, when one of the officers shouted at JP: I bu Delaila ji Aguba, e nwere m udi gi ulo!, You are Delilah 1 with a Razor, I have your kind in my house! Pinched by this statement from this officer, JP aggressively challenged him. Nonetheless, through the intervention of the police, normality was restored almost immediately. JP and I were later asked to go out and settle our differences by the mediators. As we left the office, JP did not look back until I lost sight of her. At this point, I was not surprised at JP's attitude.
During the time I was considering the topic for this article, I remembered the insightful expression of one of the mediators at the police station, that is, 'I bu Delailah ji Aguba' and hence included it. This metaphoric expression is consistent with the cognomens and appellations for people with: (1) manipulative tendencies; (2) a lack of conscience, empathy and remorse and; (3) the notion that others are objects to be used and manipulated. Among the Igbo, the prevailing opinions of the people, as I discovered, indicate that every human experience (including antisocial behaviours) is interpreted through a religious prism. This coincides with Mbiti's (1969:1) proposition that Africans are notoriously religious.  (Uwaegbute 2022:5). The region comprises 88 rural communities and the Nsukka Urban centre, which is referred to as university town, because of the presence of the University of Nigeria (Madu 2007:111). In this article, Ǹsúkká is referred to as a town in the local government where the University of Nigeria Ǹsúkká is situated. The participants for this study were purposively selected from the adherents of the two dominant religions in the area (Christianity and African Traditional Religion) and people with different socioeconomic and educational backgrounds. The results indicated that only 5 participants representing 7.14% of the targeted and selected population admitted knowing sociopaths or psychopaths as conscienceless murderers and serial killers. This coincides with the erroneous presumption that sociopaths are only in the category of 'Ted Bundy and other mass murderers or serial killers' (Levin 2005). The majority of participants (90%) presume sociopaths and/or psychopaths as incarnated evil beings. Only 2.86% rightly expressed their understanding of sociopathy and related personality disorders in a much-informed manner. Although these results are testaments to the widespread misrepresentation and incongruent identification of sociopaths and/or psychopaths among the Igbo, the puzzle for me was how to present my lived experiences with JP and the findings on sociopathy as a scientific discourse. I followed the technique of anonymising data (Saunders, Kitzinger & Kitzinger 2015) by giving pseudonyms to my respondents. The autoethnographic method I adopted in this study does not only support anonymisation of data but also the use of firstperson narrative technique to negotiate cultural constructs and informed theories and findings related to the lived experiences engaged by the author. Technically speaking, autoethnography is an approach to research and writing that seeks to describe and systematically analyse (graphy) personal experience (auto) in order to understand cultural experience (Ellis 2004;Ellis, Adams & Bochner 2011). I drew from the principal provisions of the method and the theories of sociopathy and/or psychopathy, Stockholm Syndrome, Grey Rock Syndrome, etc., to provide evidence that my experience with JP is beyond the suggested model of functionalistic theory of the family. The findings show that ASPD expressed through sociopathy, most likely explains the dramatic and constant disregard for the rights of others, lying and deception, impulsiveness, aggression, violence, and manipulation, that characterised my interaction with JP. This contrasts with the common belief among the autochthonous Igbo and perhaps other indigenous societies around the world with increasing beliefs and superstitions in interpreting human occurrences including ASPD. The findings of this research will help victims of sociopathic abuse to correctly identify sociopaths, the remote and the immediate motivation of the abuse, and include informed or expert knowledge in dealing with sociopaths.

Sociopath: From incongruent labelling to proper identification
Reference was usually made to me as an intelligent person around my community. Many people usually bring their academic questions, thinking that I had solutions and sometimes expecting me to perform some kind of magic. Within me, I constantly nursed the feeling of a lack of knowledge and limitations in answering those academic and experience-based questions. The term sociopath is one of those subjects that I had no knowledge about in spite of my holding a doctorate degree. I had read through human personality. I knew the distinctions between the sanguine, choleric, phlegmatic and melancholic. And I presumed that these are mere temperament peculiarities. Although I was conversant with the idea of the American psycho, I thought it was a label for serial killers and murderers as depicted in movies.
I stumbled on the concept sociopath as I searched for solutions to the difficult relationship with JP. What actually is sociopath? Why did it take me long to know this concept? What is its rendering in Igbo -the language widely spoken in the area of this study? Is it a Western concept, because every example shown in different studies I carried out about sociopaths is associated with foreign names and not African names? Scholarly works describe sociopaths as those people suffering from Antisocial Personality Disorders (ASPD) (Black 2013). Other clusters of ASPD like narcissists and psychopaths share similar characteristics with sociopaths. There are lots of overlap among narcissists, sociopaths and psychopaths. This could be expressed through their boldness, meanness, impulsivity, disinhibition, manipulativeness, remorselessness, emotionless behaviours, etc. For the narcissist, scheming, showering compliments, forging friendships and otherwise manipulating others are ultimately geared towards the ego and the expansion of self-importance (Plumptre 2021:1). Unlike narcissists, sociopaths and psychopaths act primarily for their own personal gain and amusement (Perez 2012). Although the terms sociopath and psychopath are often used interchangeably, there appears to be some hesitance by researchers in the many disciplines comprising criminology to continue this trend (Pemmet 2013:458). The clear line of distinction between the two terms lies on the fact that Duignam (n.p.): [A]lthough both biological and environmental factors play a role in the development of psychopathy and sociopathy, it is generally agreed that psychopathy is chiefly a genetic or inherited condition notably related to the underdevelopment of parts of the brain responsible for emotional regulation and impulse control. (p.2) In addition to this postulation, the most important causes of sociopathy are connected to 'attachment disorder', physical or emotional abuse or severe trauma experienced during childhood (Perez 2012). 'The emergence of enduring antisocial personality changes in previously normal individuals, or acquired sociopathy, has consistently been reported in patients with bilateral injuries of the ventromedial prefrontal cortex' (Mendez et al. 2005; Oliveira-Souza et al. 2019:1). In other words, physical damage or trauma to certain parts of the brain could lead to behavioural disorder expressed through acquired sociopathy. While those suffering from the aforesaid conditions have no regard for other people's emotions, psychopaths in particular often pretend to care (Purse 2020).
A sociopath, as I learnt from informed sources, (see e.g. Black 2013;Cleckley 1951;Hare 1991), is a person with a persistent pattern of socially irresponsible, exploitative, and remorseless behaviour which may include: (1) impulsivity and a tendency to engage in risky behaviour; (2) inability to form stable or healthy relationships; (3) ignoring responsibilities at work, school, to friends and family; (4) using their charm and intelligence to exploit or manipulate others for personal gain or pleasure; (5) recurrent outburst of anger, promiscuity, aggression and violence. There is no trace of intellectual impairment, delusions or hallucination among these people with moral insanity; they are insane in conduct but not in ideas (Sollid 2016). As early as 1837, Prichard as cited by Sollid (2016) described people suffering from ASPD including sociopathy as those suffering from: […M]oral insanity or madness consisting in a morbid perversion of natural feelings, affections, inclinations, temper, habits, moral dispositions, and natural impulses, without any remarkable disorder or defect of the intellect or knowing and reasoning faculties, and particularly without any insane illusion or hallucination. (p. 6) While a normal individual could exhibit one or more of the above features in certain situations, it is important that the standardised checklists for diagnosing psychopathy and/or sociopathy be used by psychiatrists and mental health professionals in identifying sociopaths and/or psychopaths. With my new understanding of the process of http://www.hts.org.za Open Access identification, training in aspects of sociology of behaviour and most importantly the guidance from mental health professionals within Nigeria, JP's behaviour is viewed more as sociopathic than psychopathic. Even though a better diagnosis of sociopath and/or psychopath ought to have been through brain imaging procedure (Anderson & Kiehl 2014), this study relied on the aforementioned processes owing to the refusal of JP to yield to this kind of test and the financial implication of such test. Most importantly, I agree with Sollid (2016), in his thesis; A 'high-functioning sociopath'? Sherlock Holmes (psycho) analysed, that the exercise of evaluating and diagnosing someone's psychological condition is a very serious matter, and not something anyone without proper education and training should propose to do. Like Sollid, I must therefore insist that this exercise of analysing JP's behaviour in terms of personality disorders be regarded as a humble proposition.
A study by a renowned psychologist, Martha Stout found that one in 25 (4%) of Americans is a sociopath (Onyeugbo 2019;Stout 2005 There were many concerns about my relationship with JP prior to the event of 29 November that were not properly handled. As I would later understand, it is emotionally dangerous to continue a relationship when there are red flags -signs that one partner cannot forge a healthy relationship (Gould 2021). The feeling of being manipulated into marriage, the rushed marriage plans, the lies and the risky behaviours as found in the private message, the initial superficial charm, and the blame-game could be regarded as 'yellow flags; unhealthy signs that eventually lead to red flags' (Hayduck 2017). These could as well be instances of red flags in some situations. Incidentally, these behaviours and similar others are the hallmark of sociopaths (Stout 2005).
As JP and I were dancing to the traditional music during the marriage event of 29 November, Ms. K (someone JP had earlier introduced to me as her best friend) courageously http://www.hts.org.za Open Access said to both of us: 'Young man, you are very unlucky to find this woman'.
As Ms. K left the scene, JP explained that it was only jealousy that could cause that kind of outburst. I became worried at the turn of events. At the end of the celebration, JP's behaviour became worse towards me. She could not talk to me any longer. She violently hit me several times within a short period of time we stayed together as a family. I later discovered the source of her enormous anger and why this sudden unveiling of the vicious behaviour was possible. As I would later find out, many sociopaths use violence and emotional abuse as an acceptable way of dealing with problems (Peterman & Dixon 2011 (2) she seems not to be interested in the marriage, yet she wanted to give birth to more children; (3) she could kill me since I feared her a lot and; (4) she was the 'king of the house' that came back home sometimes drunk anytime she liked. What I could not understand was why I was protecting her, not exposing her, not telling anybody what I was going through! The knowledge through the theory of Stockholm Syndrome or trauma bonding, gives a clue as to why victims of sociopathic abuse, often empathic people, keep protecting their abusers in spite of the obvious abusive situations that they are going through (Logan 2018).
By 2017, about 4 years into the turbulent union, I decided to quit the marriage. But the great puzzle was how I would leave our two children with someone I felt was prone to anger and violence. Perhaps to punish me emotionally, she changed school for the children two times within 1 month before finally removing them entirely from school. Because of my experiences with JP, I erroneously nursed the idea to end the lives of the two children and mine too. But I had questions for myself: How would I run away from JP's vicious attacks and leave behind the children that never asked me to bring them to the world? Why would these children suffer for my bad choices as I selfishly abandon them with that kind of violent person? These and many other queries influenced my resolve to terminate all our pains in a strange way. My emotional compass was overwhelmingly stretched by this thought. Luckily also, I remembered my research skill of balance and reviewing the pros and cons of any engagement. I read through scholarly works and 'suspect sites' on suicide and homicide. This exercise led me to look for the root cause of my crises-ridden home, instead. Every query on my experiences with JP led me towards personality disorder particularly, sociopathy. JP matches 19 from the 20 PCL-R traits of personality and behaviour assessment. I purposefully triggered her to confirm the effectiveness of the theories I read through the works on sociopath as I secretly recorded her anger outbursts. She declared her hatred towards me. She said she would make sure I do not have access to the children if there was a divorce. She threatened to kill me if I chose divorce. In another instance, I applied the principles of Grey Rock Syndrome as a decoy in protection of myself and the children from the recurrent violence and emotional abuse. I had the belief that once children are raised by a highfunctioning sociopath, their mental health would not be guaranteed to be protected without some kind of trauma (cf. Peterson n.d.). I understood that although sociopaths may not be good at taking proper care of their own children, they would try all their best to take custody during divorce and use the children as a source of their own selfish gain (Nightshade 2013).

On the perception of sociopaths among Ǹsúkká Igbo
I intensified my curiosity to learn about sociopath after my breakthrough in finding the possible motivation of JP's behaviour. For more than 2 years, I reviewed mainly seminal and emerging literature on sociopathy. I tried to assess the perception of this behavioural type (sociopathy) among the people of the community I lived with. Firstly, I related my experience with JP, and consequently asked follow-up questions to the respondents to identify or describe the cause of JP's behaviour and possibly the behaviour of other women like JP. Secondly, the respondents were asked to identify the possible solutions to the problem.
As reasoned by Onah (pers. comm., 16 December 2020), Ozioko (pers. Comm., 10 May 2020), and Ishiwu (pers. comm., 03 April 2021) 'women who behave like JP are nd' nwere di az' ebo [those who have spirit husbands], and nd' otu mammy wota [those possessed with mermaid spirit]. There is a tenacious belief in 'spirit spouse and mermaid spirit' across different cultures: Igbo, Aboriginal Australians, native Americans, and so on (Obisakin 2002;Okwuosa et al. 2021;Vitebsky 2001). Among the Ǹ súkká community of Igbo extraction, this belief is firm. Although the views of Onah, Ozioko and Ishiwu were captured in this article, the position of several other respondents agrees with theirs. Although with specific variants, some sort of esoteric or spiritual machinations are believed to be responsible for behaviours like the JP's. Odo (pers. comm., 12 January 2022), for example detailed the making of people who habitually treat their loved ones including their partners, and children disdainfully, without conscience, and unremorsefully. He argued that many of the women who act like JP are chosen by a deity to be ézèńwànyì [female traditional healer and/or diviner and/or priestess]. Possessed by the deity, such women would continue to torment everybody including themselves until they discover the reason for their questionable behaviour. The only remedy is to accept the call as a priestess of the deity even if the person is a Christian. Omeke (pers. comm., 20 February 2022) corroborated Odo's position on the manifestation of strange behaviour when a supernatural being or deity chooses a person as a servant or agent. According to him: [E]ven among the Catholics, when God chooses a person to be a Reverend father, and he refuses to obey the call, he would continue to fail in whatever he is doing until he accepts the vocation. (n.p.) Notwithstanding the fact that these appear to be a subjective and unverified claim, further investigation shows how this belief is common among the people in the study area.
The respondents that drew strong connection between the variables of spirit husband, mermaid spirit on one hand, and behaviour consistent with a lack of conscience, violence, on the other hand, suggested spiritual solution to the problem. None of the participants in the above category linked sociopath or other variant of personality disorders with the behavioural type that I explained to them. In fact, the word sociopath was not even known to them until I mentioned it.
In contrast to the above viewpoints, Ozioko (pers. comm., 12 January 2022), and Agbo (pers. comm., 12 January 2022) drew a possible link between the behavioural description of JP and personality disorder. They spoke on the overlap that exists between the different personality behavioural types. They mentioned that such behaviours are found among sociopaths, psychopaths, narcissists and others with varying behavioural disorders. The possible solutions they recommended are consistent with the prevailing theories of sociopathy and other variants of behavioural disorders. Their responses are not surprising considering their expertise in the discipline of psychology. Apart from the participants that are trained psychologists, all others have exhibited a level of a lack of proper identification or labelling of people with behavioural disorder particularly sociopathy. Religious belief, as I discovered, chiefly influenced the popular view on sociopathy and other variants of MHD and ASPD. These results contrast the informed and scholarly findings and theories on ASPD particularly sociopathy. Those who show significant and consistent features as impulsivity, manipulative tendencies, a lack of remorse, a lack of conscience, disregard for the rights of others, criminality and violence, lying, promiscuity (see e.g. Stout 2020) may be suffering from ASPD which includes sociopathy. This line of thinking was never imagined among the greater per cent (90%) of the participants of this study. Instead, religious beliefs were subjectively trusted as a convincing theory for women with behaviours that characterise ASPD. The observation that the level of religiosity in a particular society correlates with the rate of using faith-based ideas in interpreting natural occurrences has been noted (Uwaegbute 2022). It is therefore not surprising to see the pattern of thinking of the respondents in the study area as findings have indicated its autochthonous, indigenous and high religiosity statuses.

Discussion and conclusion
Apart from the opinions of the majority of the respondents, this study establishes that those whose behaviours are consistent with the total disregard for the rights of others, impulsivity, and the attendant related behaviours are likely suffering from MHD or ASPD including sociopathy. The first meeting with JP is one of the many instantiations of meeting someone with a behiaviour connected to ASPD. Such people could as well find their victims in the school, church, hotel, family and so on. They could be someone's father, mother, child, friend, acquaintance and so on (Neiger 2016:162). 'They are human beings who look like everyone else; so well camouflaged that their true nature may have gone unrecognized for years or even decades' (Stout 2020). Intelligent sociopaths can manipulate everyone including trained mental health professionals. Sociopaths and others suffering from ASPD or MHD may not have chosen to live with the disorder. Nonetheless, victims and potential victims among the Igbo and other societies with a lack of understanding of sociopaths ought to learn not only the existence of this abusive character but on how to protect themselves from their verbal, emotional and physical abuse.
Knowing about this behavioural type and the antics of sociopaths will greatly help victims to apply the right approach in dealing with the situation and protecting themselves from the abuse of the sociopath which can lead to murder or homicide. In some situations, imbibing no contact with a sociopath, or using the principle provisions of the theory of Grey Rock Syndrome as decoy could help a victim experience a temporal or permanent relief from the violence of a sociopath. Also, imperative is for the potential victims of sociopathic abuse in Igbo and other similar societies to be aware of these manipulative individuals to avoid forming a relationship with them if there is an opportunity to do so. Citing Professor Hare, Stout (2020) noted, to defeat a sociopath, you must understand the nature of human predators. The increasing poor awareness associated with sociopathy among the Igbo and other related societies, if not reversed will only lead to a continuous abuse of the empathic and unsuspecting individuals who are generally the targets of sociopaths. This abuse could cause psychological damage to the victims, making them not to properly function in the society or even cause their deaths. For a society to develop, it needs the synergy and the contribution of the able-bodied individuals, people who are mentally sound and are alive as workforce. Considering the projected number of sociopaths in Igbo and probably other indigenous groups, it will be disastrous to ignore the increasing pains, confusion, loss and deaths caused by them.
The research questions for this study centred on the assessment of the behaviour of JP and the gender it represents. Therefore, this study is specifically focused on the perception of female sociopaths among the Igbo. An investigation of sociopaths among the opposite gender in Igbo or other related societies should be encouraged. Other research findings indicated that the number of sociopaths among men is greater than among women in certain societies (Black 2013). It will be interesting to observe how the findings, for example, could be used to negotiate the activities of sociopaths among the Igbo and other indigenous societies.
In conclusion, although the data for this study implicates a prevalent faith-based interpretation of the causes of behaviours that characterise sociopaths, scholarly theses and evidence from mental health experts suggest otherwise. Going by the informed findings on sociopaths, this article makes a case that the widespread misinformation on the sociopaths and other ASPD among the Igbo and other indigenous communities, is the basis that sociopaths have leveraged as a means to deal with their victims. Therefore, there is the need to properly identify sociopaths and their behaviours so as to stop their abuse of innocent people in society.